Marriage

One of the things I don't understand about the concept and the tradition of marriage is the contradiction between "til death do us part" and divorce. The fact that there is a built-in out signifies a flaw in the structure, a contradiction from the get-go that implicitly assumes it won't work because humans are weak, faithless and forever changing. Note that it's not "til death do us part, or, until I just don't feel like it anymore." Building this institution on this ground is a bit like building a house in the sky, or perhaps more accurately, the San Andreas fault. But then again, to not have divorce would be somewhat unfair - like it was when Henry the VIII or whoever it was, invented it. People locked into marriages they could never escape were happy back then, right? So it's a tricky thing. A thing so incredibly faulty, flawed and contrary to human nature, why do we bother with this tradition as a species? Here is why:
Another thing I've noticed is that getting married is for girls. It's a totally feminine conceit that is drilled into them from a diabolically young age. Adults project their unconscious, unfulfilled wishes onto their children their "dream marriage", their "dream man", their "special day." It's relentlessly beaten into them like a pizza chef pounding dough. It's unfair to the children, and to the human race, to fill their heads so mercilessly with fantastical lies that, in the end, merely equate to how much the families involved have to SPEND in a financial way to make this absurd "dream" come true. Is it any wonder people are either single and upset, or unhappy with their marriage? How can ANYTHING in this earthly existence compete with what they've been promised?

I can tell you straight men don't sit around drinking beer, smoking cigars, playing poker and excitedly discussing their wedding day. They only do it because they are strongarmed into it by a woman vainly pursuing the dream that they had no hope of escaping, and it doesn't matter what the consequences are, and how much money must be spent to construct the whole illusion. And to just get divorced in the end adds yet another layer of insult to what is, on many levels already, quite injurious.

If gay people want this, it is somewhat puzzling, but what they really want is the financial benefits that come with it. As always, it always comes back to money. Marriage is a money deal because the state wants it that way to maintain the status quo. What this has to do with "love" is anybody's guess. But the DJ, the tuxedo rental and dress rental people, the people that host the wedding/reception, catering etc., etc., love money. And married people love the benefits it provides. I've heard the arguments that "it doesn't matter what gender you are, it's hard enough to find someone at all, they deserve everything straight people get, etc., etc.," and I TOTALLY get it. I just have two questions. One is, why do they want to be like us? Why do they emulate the traditions of straight people? Why don't they have their own thing? I thought they were happy in the niche they created for themselves in society, which took a lot of work, over many years, to carve out. Now they want to come over to the "dark side" of heterosexual rituals after all the strides they've made for their own culture? This is much like the makers of vegetarian burgers, hot dogs, turkeys and chicken. By putting it in the very form of REAL food, rather than coming up with their own shapes and designs, whether they know it or not, they are acknowledging the true original as just that, and doing a disservice to their cause and constituents.
The second thing is, when Rome fell, it was after all structures and traditions had gone out the window. This left them weak and vulnerable, and was the first crack in the armor. It opened the floodgates to the fall of their society. Now what I'm about to say might shock you, based on what you've read so far: As much as I despise the concept of marriage, and feel it deserves all the ridicule in the world for its hypocrisy, stupidity, absurdity, and its ridiculously old-fashioned, pie in the sky idealism rooted in the belief that 2 human beings of opposite genders belong to be together for their whole lives, when it is acknowledged that the sole purpose of males is to fertilize and impregnate as many females as he possibly can, dating back to caveman times and before, and that humans are slightly evolved animals - I believe it has worth as a pillar of society, the structure of which keeps humanity, or at least American society, relatively on track. Humans crave structure and tradition, and this is exactly what marriage provides. It gives humans something to aspire to: Get a job, get married, have kids and then properly die and have a nice funeral now that you've done all you're good for because you propagated the species in the correct form as the law allows. The gay marriage agenda puts a crack in THIS armor. We should learn from the past.

You might say I have contradicted myself by professing to believe in two opposing points of view. Perhaps I have. What can I say, I'm a complex guy with a lot of conflicting beliefs. Life isn't always cut and dried and simple. I believe there is room for both viewpoints. One can love and hate something (or someone) in equal measure.
I'm not married, and perhaps this whole thing is a bit naive, but it is from the perspective of someone who is completely unmarryable, so I have a unique perspective on the matter - an outsider perspective. And the REALLY crazy part is, if the tradition was such that the female asked the male to marry them, and a really great girl asked me to marry her, I would probably accept! (but not before signing an ironclad prenup which enforces the fact that I don't have to give her half, or all, of my stuff or money that I've built up throughout my entire life. The idea that someone would have to do that EVER, under ANY circumstance, is disgusting and downright criminal. It's what criminals do with murder and torture, and what women do by saying "I do" and temporarily seeming to love you. There is parity there. If you think that is extreme, that's because IT IS, and has nothing to do with me.)